What God Has Joined Together

Posted on 01 Mar 2020, Pastor: Tolu Makinde

Title: What God Has Joined Together

Text: Gen 2:18-25, Matt. 19:4-6

[Gen 2:18] And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

[Gen 2:19] Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name.

[Gen 2:20] So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.

[Gen 2:21] And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place.

[Gen 2:22] Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.

[Gen 2:23] And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”

[Gen 2:24] Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

[Gen 2:25] And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

[Mat 19:4] And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE,’

[Mat 19:5] and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’ ?

[Mat 19:6] So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

Introduction

[Pro 18:22] He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD.
Marriage is good and sweet, when a man finds his wife
However, the lack of understanding of the purpose of marriage is leading to countless break-ups and divorces
By the grace of God, this series will help us push the reset button, go back to the beginning, get the understanding of marriage from the Biblical perspective – so that what God has joined together, let not man separate.

Main Topic

Before The First Marriage

[Gen 2:18] And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
There are dangers to loneliness
- Lonely people have a higher chance of physical and mental health decline
- Loneliness can be as dangerous as smoking 15 cigarettes per day
- Loneliness can lead to depression
- Loneliness increases the odds of dying early
- Loneliness increases memory loss and dementia
To avoid death by loneliness, God made man an helper comparable to him
Before marriage, man was at risk of being lonely
In order to cure the disease of loneliness, God made for man a woman

The purpose of marriage

[Gen 2:18 AMP] Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.
The primary purpose of marriage is to avoid loneliness – marriage is primarily for companionship
[Mal 2:14] Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the LORD has been witness Between you and the wife of your youth, With whom you have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion And your wife by covenant.
The purpose of marriage is to find an “help meet”
- Suitable – someone who is right and appropriate for you
- Adapted – someone who will adjust to your condition
- Complementary – combining in such a way as to enhance or emphasize the qualities of each other or another.
Lack of understanding of the primary purpose of marriage will lead to marital abuse
- Marriage is not primarily about sex
- Marriage is not primarily about having children
- Marriage is not primarily about looks – please ask Samson what Delilah’s good looks got him
- Marriage is not primarily about money
- All these things are good, but lack thereof is not a reason for divorce
- They should be in addition to the primary purpose, not be the primary purpose

The Creation of Woman

[Gen 2:21] And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place.
The very first surgery was performed by God.
God took one of the ribs of Adam to create Eve
Adam was no longer perfect as himself
Adam was no longer complete as himself
Because a part of him is now missing
It is like a jigsaw puzzle that is incomplete until the missing piece is found and put in place
Every unmarried man has a missing piece – and there is only one woman in this world that can fill that missing piece
Every married man is complete – provided that you found your wife
Another man cannot be that missing piece – he himself has a missing piece he ought to find
A woman is the missing puzzle piece to a man, not to another woman – every woman must fit into a man
No matter how hard the world tries, you cannot fit a round peg into a square hole
Eve was the woman that was the missing puzzle piece to Adam
What is the difference between complete and finish?
- When a man finds his missing piece, he is complete
- When a man finds another man’s missing piece, he is finished

Marriage is between a man and a woman

[Gen 2:24] Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
It is a man that is supposed to get married, not a boy
Physical development of the body does not make one a man
Possessing the ability to impregnate a woman does not make one a man – there are 50 year old male that are yet to mature to be a man – they are still acting like boys
To be a man implies maturity:
- Physical maturity
- Emotional maturity – a person who does not run to mama every time when there’s trouble at home
- Spiritual maturity
- Responsible – ability to take care of a family
  - God gave Adam a job before He gave him a wife – so that Adam can provide for his household
  - Adam displayed responsibility when he named all the animals – he was doing his job
- Ability to be a father – not a baby daddy
- Having the understanding of the purpose of marriage
- My single daughters – don’t look for a boy, look for a man

Equally, it is a woman that should marry, not a girl
God gave Adam a woman, not a girl
Being a woman implies maturity
- Maturity to make a home
- Maturity to be a help meet that complements your husband
- Maturity to be a mother
- Maturity to stand by your husband and let him be the man
- Not all grown females are women. Some are still girls mentally, emotionally, and spiritually
- Every man that marries a girl will play the role of the woman in the marriage
Girls night out is for girls, not for women
Boys night out is for boys, not for men

Conclusion

Marriage was instituted to avoid loneliness
Every unmarried man is incomplete until he finds his wife
Marriage is between a man (matured) and a woman (matured)

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What God Has Joined Together